HOW TO STOP WORRYING

Live in day-tight compartment

What do we mean by day tight compartment? It is the process by which we tunnel our energy and strength into today’s happening and not what has happened in the past or what is going to happen in the future.

Sir William Osler, the organizer of the world renowned Johns Hopkins hospitals, said  “Our main business is not to see what lies dimly at a distance, but to do what lies clearly at hand” are the words of Thomas Carlyle that helped live a life free from worry.

Every individual should learn that the best way to create the future is to concentrate on today’s work with all our intelligence, enthusiasm and strength.

Most of us have our lives an entangled in what will happen in the future; marriage, career, retirement and old age and the past; break-ups, betrayals, death of loved ones to such an extent that we forget to live the light of the day. Even Jesus said “Take no thought for the morrow”. The word ‘thought’ is now translated by modern bible as ‘anxiety’.

Here’s a poem that was written 30 years before the birth of Jesus was born;

Happy the man and happy he alone,

He, who, secures within and says:

“To-morrow, do thy worst, for I have liv’d to-day”

Why not ask yourself these questions and answer them honestly?

v  Do I intend to put off living in the present in order to worry about the future, or to yearn for some magical rose garden over the horizon?

v  Do I sometimes embitter the present by regretting thing that happened in the pat that are over and done with?

v  Do I get up in the morning determined to ‘seize the day’ and get the utmost out of the 24 hours?

v  Can I get more out of life by living in day-tight compartment?

v  When shall I start to do this? Next week? Tomorrow? Or TODAY?

Magic formula for solving worry situations

Step 1: Analyze the situation honestly an figure out the worst that can possibly happen as a result of the failure

Let take, for example, we students take ourselves into the deep course of worry after taking an exam or test with the fear of failing. The worst thing that could possibly happen from this is failure, carryover, extra year any other whatnot. The first step is  to figure out the worst thin that could happen; be it death, loss of job, broken relationship, breach of trust or whatever may be worst.

Step 2: Reconcile into accepting the worst

The failure of from which the worry was derived may be a stain on your image, it may blow your record or it may lead to the loss of your job but you have to accept it and move on. After doing this, you’ll feel relaxed and have a peace of mind.

Professor William James, the father of psychology told hi students “Be willing to have it so. Be willing to have it o because of acceptance of what ha happened I the first step in overcoming the consequences of any misfortune”

Chinese philosopher, Lin Yutang, said in hi widely read book, The importance of Living, that “True peace of mind come from accepting the worst. Psychologically, I think, it means a release of energy”

Step 3: Devote your time and energy to trying to improve upon the worst which you’ve already accepted mentally

One of the worst attributes of worry i that destroy our ability to concentrate. When we worry, our minds ump here and there and we lose all of the power that can be used to make a decision. But when we compel ourselves to accept the worst mentally, we annihilate the vague imaginings and put ourselves in a position which we are able to focus on our particular problem(s).